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How I See Human Stuff (part m of n)
Sep. 27th, 2007 10:00 amI feel as if mebbe I put the wrong foot in my mouth the other day while talking to someone and it tickled my brain enough to want to bend a usual impulse for me and try to explain. Usually I avoid doing this both on philosophical grounds and from the fact that my brain works weird.
So this weirdness is in how I see Human Stuff.
Which is that if you have to sit down with someone and Talk About A Relationship, or Talk About an Incident, it's because something has already gone wrong. No amount of talking will fix the previous understanding. At its best, talking is useful for generating a new understanding, or for demonstrating a continued willingness to try to come to understandings. But whatever the previous state of affairs is, having a Big Talk about it indicates that that state of affairs is dead as a dodo, never to return.
So this weirdness is in how I see Human Stuff.
Which is that if you have to sit down with someone and Talk About A Relationship, or Talk About an Incident, it's because something has already gone wrong. No amount of talking will fix the previous understanding. At its best, talking is useful for generating a new understanding, or for demonstrating a continued willingness to try to come to understandings. But whatever the previous state of affairs is, having a Big Talk about it indicates that that state of affairs is dead as a dodo, never to return.
